It’s something we all struggle with. The question, “Am I enough?” For each of us it’s something different. Maybe you want to be smart enough, attractive enough, successful enough. Enough to impress your parents. Enough to be what society tells you you should be. Enough to attract a future spouse. Whatever it is, we all just want to feel like we’re enough. We want that sense of self-worth, of completeness, but no matter how hard we try, it always feels like we aren’t enough.
I find that I struggle with self-worth most often right after a failure. When I get a bad grade on an exam. Or when I say something stupid in front of someone important. Or when I inevitably mess up the tires on my car. Whenever those things happen, I start to get really hard on myself. I tell myself something’s wrong with me. That I’m not good enough. “What is wrong with me?” I ask.
But failure isn’t the only thing that can trigger it. Sometimes it’s caused by something completely out of my control. When someone does something that hurts me. Or when I’m feeling lonely or abandoned. Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere for absolutely no reason. I all of a sudden find myself asking the question, “Am I enough?”
The answer to that question for each of us, as hard as it may be to accept, is yes. You are enough. Just the way you are. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even on your worst day. Even after you’ve done something that you think is unforgivable. Even when you feel like you’re alone and you’ve lost everything and there’s no hope, you can find hope in the fact that you are enough.
We base so much of our worth on the things that we do. How much we are able to achieve. How many mistakes we make. But this isn’t right. What you do is such a small part of who you are. Are your actions important? Yes. Should you take pride in your accomplishments and try to fix your mistakes? Of course. But those things don’t define you. Your worth is not based on the things that you do. You are worth so much more than that.
Your worth also isn’t based on what other people expect of you. So many people have complexes because they can’t fit into the idealized image of what society says they should be, but the truth is that no one fits that. It’s part of the reason why we have so much trouble accepting that we are enough. Forget what society says you should be. If they’re telling you you’re not enough, then they’re wrong.
Finally—and this is a tough one—your worth isn’t based on how other people treat you. The truth is that we live in a broken world, and people are going to mistreat you. They might even try to make you feel like it’s your fault when they do mistreat you. And when people do that, it’s hard to see yourself as worth anything. I get that. I’ve been there. But the truth is that you are worth so much, and the fact that someone else can’t see that is not your problem. It’s theirs. People who try to devalue others probably don’t have a very high opinion of themselves and have to compensate by tearing others down. If only each of us could just accept the fact that we are enough. You are enough.
You are a reflection of the God who made you. You are precious to Him. He made you just the way you are with a purpose in mind for your life. He loves you. He wants to do something big through you. And He wants you to know that you are enough. Because to Him, you’re everything. You’re worth dying for. And when He sees you questioning your worth, feeling like you’re not enough, it breaks His heart. He wants you to know that you are enough.
I know it’s hard. I struggle with this constantly. Sometimes I have to pray and ask God to remind me that I’m enough, to remind me who I am to Him. And I pray that for my friends and family, too. It’s a simple message, but it’s hard to accept. I hope and pray that someone who needed to hear this today will read this little rant and be blessed by it. I want everyone reading this to live their lives knowing that they are enough, that they mean something to God and they mean something to me. You are enough.